Being a middle child

 

Topic: Being a middle child

Planning:

·        Identify the purpose

In the start of every presentation we have to tell our audience that what is our aim or reason to present it. I have chosen the topic being a middle child because, not all of us but most of us have experienced to be a middle child. My aim was to tell the people that middle child is conventionally considered to be ignored and excluded part of society but psychologically they have most brilliant abilities. The main reason was to make you people believe that middle ones are not the worst one as they are considered to be, it is a famous term but not discussed much.

·         Analyze your audience:

My audience is basically my class fellows and my batchmates, they are my primary audience and they do not have much know how of the psychological facts and the abilities of a middle child. They just know that they are not the favorite one of the family and they are the sandwiched child otherwise they do not know about the pros and cones of being the ignored one child. I hope that this topic will interest full for them because this topic is not under discussion yet.

·         Develop content

a.       Choose your ideas:

My ideas are to share certain facts regarding it, then to change readers mind about the middle child, to convince them that how it influences persons mind and its working. They are the secret keeper of the family and they are considered to be sharper and more confident than their elder siblings because parents’ attention is for the younger and elder one so they have been little bit ignored but when the overcomes their fears and emotions they are the most successors one.

b.      Collect your data:

My data will cover the points of their personality first, then their relationships with the other family members, either they are a part of favoritism or not, what does the science says about it, why they are neglected and, in the end, there will be conclusion. So, it is sure that I basically need an idea that would cover all the above-mentioned points, now next is my collection regarding topic.

        I.            Personality:

Middle children have personalities that are often overshadowed by their other siblings. The older sibling is strong-willed, and the younger sibling is the baby, which leaves the middle child somewhere in-between. Their personality may be dulled down by their siblings, making them quiet and even-tempered but psychologically it is proven that they are the best followers, moreover they are the peace makers of the family, they are the trouble makers also as it is a famous quote

                      I am the middle child; I am the reason we had rules

     II.            Relationships:

                  Middle children may have trouble feeling equal to their siblings in parental relationships. The older sibling often holds more responsibilities, and the younger sibling is well taken care of by the parents. He isn’t given as much attention as either. He works hard to get his parents attention. So always make them realize that

            They are not the middle child, they are the central one,

                              The center of the family’s world

  III.            Competition:

      The middle child often feels the need to compete with both the younger and older sibling for parental attention. They might compete for attention between siblings, as they risk being ignored by one or the other. As they find themselves in the middle of everything, they may also become the peacemaker.

  IV.            Favoritism:

 Middle children generally don’t feel that they are the favorite child of the family. Favoritism may exist for the oldest child who is viewed as special, or for the youngest child who is viewed as the baby. He falls somewhere in-between and is unable to be the favorite of either parent.

            Dear parents:

 Kids can tell which one is your favorite

            Even if, you have not realized you have one yet

                                                            Yours sincerely,

                                                            The Middle child

    V.            How does its effect, when they become adults?

It is basically considered that they are not much cooperative but science has proven that they are the most social one and they fit into the environment and society very easily and they are the best followers as well. It was very famous term of previous ages a middle child syndrome but now in this modern age it is much overcome, they are not the ignored one now but they are the shining stars of the family. Sometimes most of them choose the professions of attention getting like acter, actress just because they want to seek attention from their childhood, thus it effects their future professions as well.

·         Is the message persuasive or informational?

My message is basically informational not motivational, it is to tell you people that time has changed and now the middle child syndrome is not practiced commonly. Now there is not much difference between the children but in some areas still it is practiced.

Preparation

• Attention getting opening:

In the beginning, I will show a picture to guess them my topic, then I will ask them several questions like

 How many of you are the middle child of the family?

 What is their experience of being so, either a good or bad?

 Any incident if they want to share otherwise, I will share my incident regarding it

·         The key ideas:

           I will share the facts that psychology says about the personality of the children. What is the difference between the personality of the first child, middle child, last child and the only child?

Ø  The first child is the rules maker and a leader, as he is the first child so he is responsible and softer in his personality

Ø  The second or the middle child is the follower one, always works for attention seeking and peace maker. He is the most social one with the society and they re the reason of the family rules.

Ø  The third one or the last born are stubborn, favorite and center of the family attention, they have the friendship or best bond with the elder one.

Ø  The only children are usually confident, leaders, mature, center of family attention. They are the one who have the quality to persuade their words.

·         The memorable closing:

From this sharing of the informational facts, my main purpose was to change the view points of the people moreover, to make them sure that not to practice the conventional favoritism of the children in their future and if I am able to convince a single person from you than it will be a great success for me, we are the educated generation so it is our duty to erase all the differences created by our ancestors among us and to make our future generations mindset better.

Practice:

Ø  The best way to deliver an effective address or presentation or speech is to practice it not only for once, twice or thrice but to practice it as much as you can.

Ø   Before practicing it, I will write it first in my diary, all the minor things that I have to focus.

Ø   After writing it, I will start rehearsing it in front of mirror and in a room alone, by recording myself and judging it, I will correct my points then I will give my first final one in front of my friends and family members, to build the confidence, when they will appreciate me and tell me the mistakes I will feel more confident after correcting them.

Ø   Moreover, if I feel nervousness Infront of the audience

ð  I will relax myself at the spot by drinking water because when our mouth dries it creates anxiety, tension and nervousness

ð   I will change my position, If I will be stuck to one place then I will get confused so I will use my space given to me.

ð   lastly, I would take deep breaths to calm myself.

ð  Then I will take a start full of energy again.

Presentation:

·         To make a positive good impression, I have to dress properly.

·         Then I will welcome the audience first with a smile.

·         Making eye contact with them will make me confident, considering they are here to learn something

·         I will completely get the concept of the topic to present in a good way.

·         I will speak in a flow, without hesitating, it is the point where I will be judged that either I have full command on my language or not.

·         I will take the pauses where necessary, not so long that it looks like I forgot something but as appropriate to create a suspensive and storytelling way.

Seven factors to remember:

·         The start:

Ø  I will welcome the audience first.

Ø  I will take a memorable start.

Ø  I will make an eye contact.

Ø  I will engage audience in the start, by asking them questions or their experiences.

Ø  After that starting, I will speak my content.

·         Audience mood:

Ø  I will observe the audience, their facial expressions.

Ø  They are showing interest or not, if not then I will gain their attention

Ø  I will show patience, if they are behaving non seriously.

Ø  I will try to be polite and soft in the voice.

Ø  I will try to involve them, so they will be comfortable

·         Voice level:

Ø  My voice should be clear to the last bencher.

Ø  I will try to speak slower than the normal routine

Ø  I will take proper pauses where necessary.

Ø  I will observe my own note; either it is audible with higher or lower pitch.

Ø  I will try to compile easy words, not too difficult to understand, otherwise the purpose of making audience understandable goes wasted.

·         Body language:

Ø  My body postures

Ø  I will try not to stuck at one place, but not to move too much.

Ø  I will use the space given to me.

Ø  I will move my hands and grasp attention by walking and by my hands movement.

Ø  I will avoid tickling the pencil, fingers crossing, hands in pocket or at the back, avoid all things because these are the symbols of confusion.

·         Your visual aids:

Ø  First of all, I have to decide which medium, I want to use:

o   White board

o   Blackboard

o   Orally

o   Flip cards, charts

o   Power point (multi media)

Ø  I will not show my back towards the audience.

Ø  I will not only read the slides

Ø  I will not write too much; it will move listener’s attention towards it.

·         Timing:

Ø  I will divide the time for each slide

Ø  I will not stay too long that it will bore your audience

Ø  I will make my time average not too short that it will mark negatively, not too long that it will creates a boring environment

·         Conclusion:

Ø  I will try not to lose the temper in the end

Ø  I will keep the voice pace the same as it was in the starting

Ø  I will make my conclusion remarkable

Ø  I will end up the discussion with a proper result, that no question remains in viewers mind.

If you are a Middle Child then remember, the

Best Part of The Oreo is the Middle One.